Unconditional love?
Nah, it doesn’t fascinate me.
Well, having said that, everybody seems to be using this word these days, but seldom does anyone follow it. For me, love is something which happens with your growth in maturity – as an individual and within the soul as well. It’s not about smiling, giggling, but it’s about caring and facing the difficulties – at the back end of it. Every day you get up and do your routine work, nothing really special to remember. Nothing really matters. What matters is the image that comes before you close your sleepy eyes. The image that is inside you all day – which tends to flash every now and then. And you don’t have the sense to realise the destination where you actually end up landing without any control whatsoever. That is the effect of that image – anywhere, everywhere. This image is nothing but your love. Without her, you tend to hate everything and everyone. At work, she gets into your work, your reports, your records. At leisure, she is never out of your mind. The songs you love, kill you with her thoughts. All you want is to consume her love, her earthly body, her mind, her soul and even her spirit. You wanna own her completely. You can’t stand the sight of her talking to anyone else. You can’t stand the sight of her ignoring you. This is not unconditional love. This form of love is unique and destructive in nature. But it is by far purest too – as you don’t really give a damn to anyone else. For you, love and the object of love is the same and the only one, nothing else. This kind of love is destructive in nature ’cause it can harm your relationship with others and you turn villain in the eyes of worldly people – but you’re the hero of your own story. But what happens when your loved one gets to know about all these, about the real you? She will be over the moon, overwhelmed with joy which has no bounds. A woman wants nothing but loyalty. And this loyalty drives her crazy.
Unconditional love?
Nah, it’s not for me, not for her, not for us.
About the author: It’s not me. One of my cousins have written this post. He asked me not to reveal him & also mentioned that THIS IS A WORK OF FICTION 😛 I seriously doubt this 😉 But, he has been a support for me always and appreciates and guides me while writing. Hope you liked it and you can also express yourself in the comments section 😀
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[…] to praise my work. This was not written by me. This was written by my cousin, the one who wrote THE DARK SIDE OF LOVE. He is a blessing to me and helps me in my shortcomings. Hope he writes more and shares with all of […]
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What a great post on Unconditional Love by your cousin Darshith! He is amazing with his words, it runs in the family 😉 I hope he has his own WP blog now so we can all follow him because many people can relate to what he is saying I’m sure 😉
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No, he do not have his own site. Yet 😀 hope he joins soon 😉 I am waiting for more posts written by him, which I will post here 😉
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That’s great 😊
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[…] FYI, I lost the game of Chess, which I played last some weeks back with my cousin. He was the author of the post : The dark side of love 🙂 […]
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but does this kind of love exist?
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The unconditional one? Rarely but I want to believe that it exist 😉 and I also believe that the conditional love can become unconditional, if there intrudes some miracle and I for sure, believe in miracles 🙂 Thanks for the question and reading this article by my cousin 😉
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To answer the question “Does (can) this kind of love (UC) exist?” ……. most certainly, as can a long and trouble free life when smoking a pack of cigarettes a day. In both circumstances it can happen, but the odds are very much against it.
UC tends to work short-term but eventually, one person will feel that they want more permanence. There was much UC love back in the 60’s (Flower power/Hippy era) and for some it worked …… but only some. UC love benefits the man because he can move on as he feels necessary (no conditions to consider) however, the woman may well now have children (or want children) which dictates that she needs a greater level of stability. UC (read sexual freedom) is many persons dream, but life’s realities are very different so it becomes a maturity issue.
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Most welcome 🙂
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So what would you say about it. Is love an enchanting feeling for those whose relationship strive and poison for those who don’t. Just asking in curiosity 🙂
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Nope. My personal opinion is, till you both love each other and no matter the differences in thoughts, stick together and spend happy times together, it is great. But,once you start avoiding & lying, then problems start. Love is pure and pious, even when the ending is not happy 😉
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Avoiding is the most cruel thing in a relationship I believe. It destroys the mutual trust between the two and surrounds the relationship in a question mark. Do we need to continue any longer? I hate break ups
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Everyone does hate that SOB 😛 It depends how you feel for the other person and then based on that, you can take your steps. There is no general answer to all relationship, because all individuals are different with varying range of feelings involved between them 🙂 So, you gotta make the choice and then stand firm on it 😉
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Hehehe but yeah thank God I am single so far but I feel for my friends who have terrible break ups. I am pretty sensitive you know. Once I helped a friend of mine for a reunion of her lost love 😍
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Wow, that’s a very good deed 😉 If we feel happy, when others are happy, then there is Humanity left in this world 😀
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Have you read my that post a cold night the last was something similar to what you said now
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No I haven’t. If possible, share the link and I would love to read it 😛
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Go to my home page it’s there in wordpress only you can find it. A Cold night
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I always feel, such kind of destructive love always help us grow. Its up to us, grow good or bad!!
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Yes, we all grow, we all evolve 🙂 we just need to ensure that we grow in a positive way 🙂 What we think will kill us today, will be the reason for our stronger will power & high confidence tomorrow 🙂 Thank you Vishakha for your thoughts 😉
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Indeed true that!! Positive and negative is just a perception.
And like I believe, every word is a thought, it’s how we take it!! 😀
-keep writing do well!! Spread words for love!! 🙂
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Yes, you too 😉 You haven’t posted anything in a while?
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Just busy with work and studies. Btw I just posted.
I’m just quite on stuff and reading you guys do well!! 🙂
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Loved your post 😀 I also do this sometimes, say some thing which I like and keep note of it 😛
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That’s a good thing actually. I like playing with words at times
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To play with words, you gotta have a lot of words in your armory 😛 I seldom have that pleasure 😉
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Not a lot of word’s for now!! But that’s a dream to have a lot and lot of them!! 🙂
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Yes, same here 😀 Learn and learn and learn 😛
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Haha. Hi-Fi !!!!! 😛 😀
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Yo Girl 😉 High-Five.. A long forgotten song came to my mind.. Fly-By of Blue 😉
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Great work by your cousin.
I have nominated you for the Veracity Challenge. Do check it out.
https://effulgenceofremnantsunshine.wordpress.com/2015/06/22/veracity-challenge/
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Thank you Jarvis 🙂 Will surely do the challenge in some days 😀
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Wow, wonderful. I can understand these feelings. Love can be consuming!
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Yes Nico, Love is consuming and makes us weak most of the times but the moments when we are strong, are the main highlights 🙂 Difficult to resist & impossible to understand 😀
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Because this whole Post rejects unconditional love, one has to deduce that conditional love is preferred by the author. What I find really interesting here is that nowhere did I read what the conditions were….. or did I overlook something?
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Yes, the conditional love is not mentioned. But, when we know that Love is seldom unconditional. I think, what my cousin was trying to express that, there are dependencies, when we take a huge decision. Loving and submitting to someone & making it all officail, is also a huge decision and with the dependencies like families of both partners and other things, Love loses the unconditional charm. Hopefully, we can see or feel more of unconditional love, just like a Mother’s love 🙂 Thank you for your thoughts 🙂
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I think that your cousin should do a follow-up Post explaining what conditions he feels are relevant because conditional love without explaining the conditions is a bit like saying ‘Just sign on the dotted line…. but don’t read the contract.” I would be very interested in knowing what conditions are important to him as there are numerous relationship pitfalls which could be addressed, explored, and ramifications of same under “unconditional love” circumstances, understood.
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🙂 I second that.
Well it was nicely written. But we would like to know more on the perception about UL, may be we get to see a new dimension.
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I think, all the love & comments will make my cousin come up with a sequel 😀 Thanks Bhanu 😀 and Colin 😉 Making things clear is good, but also keeping the things a bit hazy and let the imagination of the reader run wild, is also something 😛 Let’s hope for the best 😀
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Sure always 🙂
I read somewhere ‘Writing is contagious’ 😛
May be your cousin has lot to share to the world and we are eager to read them 🙂
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Yes WRITING IS CONTAGIOUS and I got infected by him 😛 But, now the sad part is he is cured and not getting time also 😛 but this over-whelming response can surely change his mind 😉
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Darshith: Letting the imagination run wild is great with a work of fiction, but I would suggest questionable when it comes to matters of the heart. Also “let’s hope for the best” is probably a very good definition of unconditional love …….. but hardly providing any sense of security or intended permanence. Really looking forward to the “sequel”. 🙂
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Ok boss 😀 It’s all my cousin’s decision, when he reads the comments 😛 Just an insider’s note, He had said, that he will write & I will publish here 😀 I hope he remembers 😛
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Just convey your cousin his post deserves an applaud and he should make his own WP Site! ! I am in a dire need to read good narratives! ! Thankyou 🙂
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Ok Izza 😀 Thank you for your feedback 😉 Yeah, he writes awesome stuff. And if he doesn’t want to make his own WP site, then I can ask him to contribute here 🙂
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