How difficult is it to think positive?

So! Yes, this time it’s not ‘Yo!’ ๐Ÿ˜€

I think I have met many people in my life. All kind of people, almost all. What hurts me to express is I am bad at expressing and then how people think negative things and stay with all the negativity.

I have been thinking for some days that how difficult is it to think positive, to think good things, and to understand that almost everything is in our mind. So, if we start to think happy, we certainly become happy, eventually.

I know I am writing this post from my perspective and hence I think it is easy to be happy and positive, but, I think I am ready to learn the difficult things of life and try to understand life from other’s perspective.

I think how we are brought up as a child has a larger effect on our thought process than anything else. But, how we see the world and feel the world and try to understand things is also important. It’s not that the same solution applies to all the problems and scenario and hence we gotta think differently for almost all the cases and try to find the best solution for each scenario individually.

As all people have a different name, and to call them, we use their respective names, similarly, to find a better relationship with any particular individual, we gotta use an unique solution to make it work in the best manner.

I can write numerous things about what to do to think positive but I won’t do it because if that worked, then I wouldn’t have been writing this post here. Things don’t work. People don’t think positive and hence there has to be something underneath this. Not only THEIR MENTAL LIMITATION but something more other than that. I want to figure that out so that we can try to neutralize that factor.

So, please tell me when you face difficulty to think positive. Under what circumstances do you think that you’re all drained of the positivity in your life and start to think negative? I know it’s difficult to express ourselves but we’re at that point in our life that we have to help ourselves or else it’s all downhill from there. Please help me, help you.

 

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I am not a blogger :P

It’s a saying that, “IF YOU DO NOT WRITE THE HIGHLIGHTS OF THE YEAR BLOG OR RESOLUTIONS OF THE NEXT YEAR BLOG, YOU ARE NOT A BLOGGER!”

I did that mistake ๐Ÿ˜€ I wanted to write but it’s not important and hence I ain’t troubling and torturing you with boring and usual stuff. This site is for the thinkers and unusual thoughts ๐Ÿ˜‰

What did you do on New year’s eve? Oops! Happy 2018 to you and everyone you know and don’t know ๐Ÿ˜‰

— I hope to make more videos and become more interesting during this year โค

— I want to read more books and smile more and behave more and grow more ๐Ÿ˜‰

What are your resolutions? Car? Home? Savings? Good luck!

Can you share some of the easy ways of saving some portion of the salary? Or investing it in anything? Because I have bad at both in 2017 and with 2018 here, I want to learn new things and implement it ๐Ÿ™‚

FYI, I don’t get excited that easily and for me, midnight of 1st Jan 2018 was same as any random day. Am I crazy already? Or I am not there yet? ๐Ÿ˜€

P.S.: Please subscribe to my YouTube channel for travel/motivational videos, Darshith Badiyani โคย We’ll start 2018 with BELIEVE ME by Fort Minor. A separate vlog and blog coming with title “INTERESTING ME” ๐Ÿ˜‰ Are you excited? ๐Ÿ˜€

Temples, business, and thoughts regarding those

Yo!

I think I come here when I am confused or when I want to make others confused! I am done with this world. Don’t worry, this is not my suicide note ๐Ÿ˜€ I can always live alone and live with or without anything.

Last weekend, we went to a trek Kumar Parvat and fortunately, we didn’t finish it ๐Ÿ˜€ We didn’t reach the main peak because it was too far and it was too sunny and we were too tired and it was too difficult and I am using so many TOOs just because I can ๐Ÿ˜›

Forget the trek because this blog ain’t about that. It’s regarding our visit to a temple there. It wasย Subramaniam temple.

When men go inside the temple, they are asked to remove their shirts and go inside. It was surprising at first. Why such a ritual? I asked 3 of my friends and got 3 different answers.

Answer1(2 more friends told this same thing):ย The temple is located in such a geographical place that it emits superior energy and for us to receive it, we have to remove our shirts.

Answer2:ย God wanted humans to see that we all are equal hence the rule of removing shirts because the rich will wear heavy and expensive garments while the poor will be wearing usual clothes. But in front of God, all are equal.

Answer3:ย In the old days, only those who wore sacred thread were allowed inside the temple and to recognize people who wore it, they were asked to remove the shirts. If found not wearing it, either they were asked to leave the temple or wear one sacred thread from there and proceed inside.

Now, tell me, which answers seem logical to you? My first question on listening to Answer1 & Answer2 was WHY ONLY MEN? Why only men need superior energy or why only men had to be shown that they were equals? You cannot ask women to remove their shirts/tops then why men? But maybe women suck the required energy from men, hence they are not asked ๐Ÿ˜€

To be honest, I could see some sense in Answer3 but then I don’t wear a sacred thread and I did go into the temple without any trouble. So, what’s the point of asking to remove shirts when it is useless?

Now, that was my secondary disappointment with our culture. Primary disappointment was the people in South worship Elephants. In some temples, they keep elephants with bells chained to their neck so that when they walk, it will make a sound. The elephants were fed the prasad(which was used to feed the idol of God).

I will be talking about one simple scenario. If the elephant is not fed the entire day, then he’ll eat whatever we feed him(he doesn’t know whether it’s prasad or not). I am strictly against chaining of animals(any living being) and doing whatever we want with them(mostly business in case of temples). It hurts to see that literate people blindly follow cultures like idol worship and help temples expand the business by donating money without realizing that the animals they keep and the insensible stuff that we do, ultimately have a ripple effect and it all adds up to the increase in the negativity in this world.

It’s just not about South India temples. It’s generic. It’s wrong as per my POV. If you’ve any other way of looking at this thing, then please feel free to share your views. And maybe I have postponed my plan of visiting Rameshwaram and Tirupati because of the above-mentioned reason. Help me gain some sense in this matter.

P.S.:ย Some of my friends don’t like myย approach of singling out a particular region of India and discussing the ill-things regardingย those. I can go ahead and write things which are not correct on Orissa and Gujarat too. Hope some people understand that this is a general problem and has to be addressed anywhere it hampers our society. For this, I am not doing any business in temples by donating money. Instead, I like to use it in some other way by helping poor people. Please share your views on this too.

Work-Life balance in Software jobs

Yo!

I am into software and I love to explore what my future would be if I stay in the same career for forever ๐Ÿ˜€ It’s similar to the question which we all are asked in interviews like, “Where do you see yourself in 5 years?” ๐Ÿ˜‰

FYI, sometimes, not always, I go to the restroom in office and read epub ๐Ÿ˜› If any of my colleaguesย are reading this, trust me, my stomach is always upset with me for not eating more food ๐Ÿ˜›

So, this week, while I was in the restroom, reading a post,ย  I could hear 2 other colleagues talking. They are senior(read married)ย  ๐Ÿ˜‰

Senior1: Hey man, how are you?

Senior2: I am good. You?

Senior1: I am good too. How is everyone at home?

Senior2: Everyone is good. I think my son has forgotten me!

Senior1: Why? What happened?

Senior2: Because when he wakes up, I am getting ready for office. By the time, I leave for the office, he’s taking bath. I come to the office, he goes to school. When I return from the office, he’s already asleep.

So, now you know, what it is to be married and work in a software company. Good luck to me ๐Ÿ˜› Don’t worry, I ain’t getting married anytime sooner ๐Ÿ˜‰

P.S.: Yo! How are you, folks? I know, I have been writing more blogs than making more vlogs? Is something wrong with me? Of course not! It’s just that, I want to rejoice writing more than videos. But, the videos are coming ๐Ÿ˜‰ Maybe 2018 will be full of videos ๐Ÿ˜› If not done yet, then check out my YouTube channel, Darshith Badiyani. Today’s song is Ain’t no love in the heart of the city by Bobby Bland.

Sacred

Yo!

What is sacred to you? I read this word in HPMOR recently and it kind of stuckย with me. I love this word.

I have been going around asking my friends what they deem sacred and it came as a surprise to me that people were astonished and couldn’t think of things on hearing that word. It saddens me ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

Now, if I take it on me to come up with things which pop into my mind when I think of the word SACRED then I will also be surprised myself. But on further thinking, I can think of READING A MEANINGFUL LINE/PARAGRAPH IN A BOOK tops the list โค

Lately, I read STUPIDITY IS DOING THE SAME THING AND EXPECTING A DIFFERENT RESULTย and I was left aghast at how perfectly it was written.

I feel sad that we have lost touch with our soul. I fell sad that we don’t know WHO WE ARE? I feel sad that we end up all our life running after things that won’t matter ever. I feel sad that temporary pleasure is all that matters to us. I feel sad just because I haven’t felt sad for a long time. I feel sad because feeling sad is all I can do as of now.

But what can we do? What can I do? I am sad and devastated. But then a ray of hope comes thinking about those times when many of my friends asked me WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OF OUR LIFE? WHY DO OUR SOUL CHANGES BODIES EVEN AFTER DEATH BUT ITSELF DOESN’T DIE? WHY IS IT THAT PEOPLE LOVE TEMPORARY PLEASURE MORE? and I feel happy because we ask the right question. Above are the right questions. I admit that I don’t have answers to it. I admit that most answers won’t make me feel satisfied. I admit that I am happy that the questions are correct and someday we’ll get the correct answers.

It might be so that the time will be gone and it’ll be late. That’s okay, but, we would have definitely reached our destination even being late. It’s all about timing, I understand, but there’s no roadmap, no help, no guidance, no successful history, and we discover successfully WHO WE ARE? WHAT HAPPINESS MEANS TO US? WHAT IS URGENT AND WHAT IS IMPORTANT? WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE FOR THE FUTURE GENERATION? If we discover some of these, we’re the winners, maybe LATE WINNERS, but still smiling โค

P.S.: As always, I don’t think my post makes sense much but such confused is my way of thinking now. To clear it all, to become #sacred again, I am going for a trek this weekend to Kodachadri, Shimoga. Will post the pics โค If you have not already, do subscribe to my YouTube channel, Darshith Badiyani.

Yo! You! Happy Children’s day ;)

Trust me on this that I didn’t think of writing this post ๐Ÿ˜€

But, seeing people share their childhood pics and sharing posts which bring out the child in us, made me want to write this. After all, I am also a child inside ๐Ÿ˜‰

So, tell me, you think you’re crazier than me? You’re more childish than me? You’re more fun than me? You’re cute than me?

I bet I am best on all the above except cuteness because my mother(I call her Mother India) used to drink chocolate Horlicks when she was pregnant with me. It’s no fault of mine ๐Ÿ˜‰ But such is life. We get rewarded/punished for things we weren’t a part of and then sometimes, we escape from things which were to be blamed on us ๐Ÿ˜›

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I wish I had kids so that I can post cute, crazy pics of them here ๐Ÿ˜‰ Anyone volunteeringย for making my this dream true?ย  ๐Ÿ˜‰ Hey! Listen, if you’re my relative or who thinks I am a good guy, this is a joke. If you’re really into me, this ain’t a joke, I am serious! ๐Ÿ˜€

Nevertheless, I love being a kid and I instantly like those who behave like one(and obviously are a kid inside) ๐Ÿ˜€ I won’t say I have had a harsh life, I have seen the worst of things in life, I haven’t. But yeah, I have had my days, tough days, and here I am all risen, all shining. We all have to fall, and then rise, because that’s how life is. That’s how we grow up. That’s how we mature. That’s how we start to realize the small things of life like eating a lollipop or Poppins ๐Ÿ˜‰

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Lollipop ๐Ÿ˜›

 

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Poppins love ๐Ÿ˜‰
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Different cities, different countries, same level of craziness
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One of the signature pose since last 8 years ๐Ÿ˜€

 

So, I will also share some of my funny pics and you’re free to judge me and also my friends ๐Ÿ˜‰ Happy Children’s day to one and all.

P.S.: Keep holding on to the child in you ๐Ÿ˜› Hence today’s song Hold on by Michael Buble ๐Ÿ˜‰ How are you? How is November going? I think I am back to writing blogs again and my videos have dried up, but I will be back ๐Ÿ˜€ Just hold on to me coming back for you ๐Ÿ˜‰ If you don’t know, check out my YouTube channel Darshith Badiyani. Also, check out my Facebook page, Smiles here & Smiles there.

The generation gap

Yo!

Is it not a pleasant surprise that y’all are getting notification that DARSHITH PUBLISHED A NEW BLOG on Smiles here & smiles there ๐Ÿ˜€

I am back again ๐Ÿ˜› This time around I will be discussing the Generation Gap we all face ๐Ÿ˜‰

I am a 90’s kid and it was a great time to grow up seeing Sachin Tendulkar’s God-style play. Seeing Zidane/Messi/Ronaldo/Cristiano Ronaldo play โค Also more and more rising footballers too ๐Ÿ˜€ I also watched Shaktiman and loved the Maggi breakfast when I was a kid ๐Ÿ˜‰

Last month I went to Gujarat along with my parents and sisters and it was a great time there. We have relatives there and as it was a family trip, it was filled with visits to temples and spending quality time with relatives and one another.

The thing which strikes me the most is how within 20-30 years, the way of thinking has changed among us.

Just a little background about my parents, they love God more than they love each other and they are great devotees. Every day. they will get ready in the morning and before going to work, they will pray God and worship him. And during special occasions like Diwali, Holi, family member’s bdays, they insist on going to the temple for blessings. Don’t take me wrong, I kind of don’t believe this logic. But, as they believe in this, I try to follow whenever I can, for them.

What struck me surprising is when my father bought 5 liters of milk to give as an offering to God and the temple people said that they will offer the next day andย I am very much sure that they will sell the same 5 liters of milk to several people and keep the earned money with them. I am not saying it’s wrong. It’s just not good and on top of that, how foolishly people believe them saying it’s for God.

I understand that my parents had the right amount of devotion for their God but I don’t see why they had to do something out of the extraordinary like offering milk without any guarantees. And if they want, they could have given it to some needy people and get the blessings from real people instead. It’s their choice and I tried to state my POV and of course, was asked to not interfere ๐Ÿ˜›

And hence the train of thoughts ran wild. I thought of how so much money was looted by all these temples and the Babas. Why? Because they were playing with the innocence of the people and then these people, liked to be played on ๐Ÿ˜€

I saw such behavior from others and my parents throughout the trip of 5-6 days, which comprised of visiting around 8-10 temples. And then, it struck me. The answer.

And the answer is this blog’s title, The generation gap, and I will explain how.

Previously, like 20-30 years back, people used to invest in buying houses and cars and fancy, expensive stuff. It’s good. People still do that. But, our generation believes in experiences, in feeling new things, visiting new places because we try to live in the present. We don’t know where we will be after 1 year, say 5 years, so it doesn’t quite make sense to buy a house.

And then I got the answer. I would give away anything for travel, for good art, for good companionship, for a great experience, a new one. This is me and I hope, this is mostly 60-70% of 90’s onwards kids. How I worship art and creativity is the same way in which my parents and many more people worship God. It’s that simple, but, simple things are hard to get.

My Facebook post was “Is the art greater than the artist?”

The best response I got is by Saurabha Wankhede, “Let me give you an example.
Once Swami Vivekananda went to the darbar of Maharaja Mangal Singh who was a popular king at Alwar, Rajasthan.
The king always criticised image worship.
Swamiji had the portrait of the king brought down and asked the courtiers to spit on it.
When they refused to do so,
Swamiji pointed out to the king that there is no flesh or bone of the king in the picture, it nevertheless represents him.
Likewise, people worship stone or idol images remembering God alone.
The idol is considered God,
and it becomes the same,
Because no one can perceive God directly like a formless thing.
So though we create idols but it still has a greater value.
Obviously, it has.
You send your prayers or energies through the idol towards God.
It becomes a symbol of being holy and a place of worship.
When you attach yourself to God you become greater in all aspects as you join the supreme infinite power.
Also, one devotee can inspire and make many other worships God.
Similarly, when an artist creates art, he/she becomes greater and so is the art adored more by other people through the efforts of that person.”

I am sorry to make you confused regarding your thoughts on all this. But, what you can do is share your POV and then we can discuss along. What do you think about the Generation gap?

P.S.: Yo! Happy weekend! Do listen to Malibu by Miley Cyrus โค I am planning to make more videos. So, stay tuned and do subscribe to my YouTube channel @ Darshith Badiyani.