Parent-child bonding

When a child is born, everybody loves her. The mother loves her the most.

I am considering, she’s a girl. You can think of her as a boy too. But, there’s a reason why I chose the child to be a girl. The parents carry her in their arms. Shows her the world. Gives her candies and all the love. They think she is learning by seeing the world and will remember what all she sees in her childhood.

But, she seldom remembers because she was a kid after all. The parents were doing all this so that when she grows up and leaves them alone in search of a job or pursue studies or get married, the parents will remember that they did such and such things for her. They will have tears in their eyes and unending love for their child. She will be unaware of all this. She didn’t remember things when she was a kid and she won’t be able to know when she grows up because she won’t be there with them.

But then, this is how it is. A child is born, she’s adored, she grows up, she moves out, parents live with memories. So, the incident when the parents are holding the kid in their arms and showing the moon and the stars and the vehicles on the roads, at that moment, all they want is to see that FANTASTIC smile on the kid’s face. Seldom they realize that those memories will stay with them longer than their kids.

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And when the kids are all grown and independent(almost), parents hide their same emotional side fearing that the kids won’t like it and the kids hide because they think their parents won’t like(or sometimes ego issues like WHY SHALL I SAY FIRST?) and just like that one of the awesome relation on Earth is killed.

Stop reading this blog! STOP! Go, call your parent and talk to them, tell them how much you love them, how much you miss them. It’s now! Then come and like/comment here 😉

This post is inspired from the below Quora post –

Q : What is the deepest conversation you’ve ever had with someone?

A : When I was living in a hostel, my mom used to call me daily and we used to have this same 2 minute conversation.

Mom: Beta! How are you?

Me: I’m good.

Mom: Everything’s fine there?

Me: Yes.

Mom: You had your Dinner?

Me: Yes, Mom!

Mom: Anything else?

Me: No! Now, I’ve to go. I’ll talk to you tomorrow.

Mom: Good Night!

Me: Good Night!

Short conversation, right? Din’t find anything deep in it, did you? I don’t think most of you would have. But this is what she always meant.

Mom: Beta! How are you?

(I know you must be bored of this question by now, but me and your dad are always worried about you. Just listening to your voice everyday is an assurance for us)

Me: I’m good.

(It’s not easy. Its not exactly like home, but I’m managing somehow. I have my own ups and downs but don’t want to bother you and dad with this stuff)

Mom: Everything’s fine there?

(I know you’ll say yes, but your voice betrays you. I can feel you’re not okay. Something’s bothering you, but I also know that you won’t reveal unless you want to. And If I press it, you might get agitated. We just hope you’ll let us know. We’re always there for you)

Me: Yes, Mom!

(You might have sensed it already, but you know I can’t open up. I hope you don’t force it. I’ll handle it myself)

Mom: You had your Dinner?

(Another stupid question, right? But you don’t realize that even a small stupid detail about you is important for me. I hope you actually ate and won’t just say yes so that I feel good. I know you don’t like your mess food)

Me: Yes, Mom!

(Mess food sucks. I really miss home food. I am tired of eating mess food as well as outside food. Anyways, mess is already closed. I’ll go to canteen today again)

Mom: Anything else?

(Tell me if I can help you out, or atleast make you feel better by listening to you. I’m confident that you’re capable enough to handle any situation, but this is the least I can do for you)

Me: No! Now, I’ve to go. I’ll talk to you tomorrow.

(I wish i could tell you. But I need to take care of this myself.

Mom: Good Night!

(I love you beta)

Me: Good Night!

(Love you too, Mom)

Love your parents. Love anyone and everyone. Love without any reason. Love is powerful. So, love yourself first. Love is unequivocal. But still, feel and smile.

P.S.: Yeah! It was powerful. To make you feel better, go listen to Crawling back to you of Backstreet boys! Or, you can go ahead and check this video as a solo-traveler 😉

Siblings preference & TVF Tripling

Yo!

I am less frequent and I am busy. But today I watched TVF Tripling and simply loved it. Those 3 EPs are superb. If you haven’t watched, go now and watch.

The way it amplifies what we miss out of life is creditable. We miss out on our family, siblings, friends and that’s the worst part. We are so engrossed to earn more money and less respect and least caring life that we forget the priorities.

After watching the EPs, I badly want to meet my sisters and hug them and wanna go a road trip of ours. That’d be so fun. 

Just as in the series, I wish I had a brother too but then that’s fine, I am content and super happy with my sisters. 

Let Dusshera come and we 3 be together, let’s go on a trip. Love you all people for reading this and let me know your preference of siblings and what siblings you got.

Happy week. Keep smiling and love life. Family comes to rescue at the moment of crisis. 

Bhaag Milkha Bhaag!

To be true, I haven’t seen that movie nor I know what’s the status of “Milind Soman” as he runs from Ahmedabad to Mumbai, which is almost 570 km. What a guy he is! And what a guy I am, who could hardly finish 5k run(for the first time)! Yeah, you heard it right. I ran 5k this last Sunday and it was total fun.

It’s said that we have to start things for the first time, sooner or later. And so I started, started running. Sometimes from work to home at 8 PM, sometimes running around the new flat I live in with my friends, just to practice for the 5k run(the Main event).

On the event day, we left at 4:45 AM in our bikes and it was cold out there. What I love about Bangalore is its weather(mind you, this is one of the many reasons of loving this city). We lost path for a while but found one another soon and continued our journey to the event place.

On reaching, I had an expression of a big ‘O’ seeing so many participants and also seeing the Brigade Orchards(what a place it is). We warmed up. 4 teams(each team comprising of 4 members) had participated from Flutura(my new company).

2 months flashback, I left my old job and now I am at a new city, new company and without a cell phone(Unfortunately, I lost my phone and fortunately, I am away from WhatsApp and all the unnecessary chats).

Back again to present, I will buy a new phone soon, so wasting time is again going to be the headlines of my life 😀

Just so you know, I am not going to talk about the 5k run because it took me 35:55 mins to finish it. I think next time will be better 😉

I met some cool people there. The person who finished the race first was from France. He finished the race in 19:42. We danced on the latest beats and also did Zumba. It was fun and fun days are back again(Ache din!).

All I would like to share is KEEP RUNNING, if tired, KEEP WALKING but DON’T STOP. Progress is important(remember the tortoise & rabbit story).

Feel free to share some of your fun moments and let us all know about it.

Some of the pics are below.

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Paresh(colleague) riding a mechanical bull. I rode too, but the bull had the better of me in less than a second so no pics of me with Mr. Bull 😀
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“Cool” *Mikesh’s tone* #permanentRoommates

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Cccrrrraaaazzzzzyyyyy!!!

P.S.: Today’s song pick is Don’t you need somebody of RedOne. Happy August and keep smiling.

 

AtoZ challenge Day01 (A for A@#!)

Ready? *For today? Yes!*
Steady? *please don’t make me emotional*
Go! *this is what I love the most*

 

Today marks the 1st day of the A to Z challenge 2016. It’s my first time in the challenge & I am going to learn so many things all together.

“Smiles here & smiles there” has gone 1 level up from today. I have made a YouTube channel in which I will share inspirational thoughts & other random yet relevant thoughts & also some of my personal experiences. You can subscribe to the channel @ Darshith Badiyani.

For today’s alphabet ‘A’, I had many words to talk about like Amplify, Ascend, Attitude, Accept, Artificial, Aim but I didn’t on any of those. To check out the word on which I share my thoughts is in the below video.

I would be grateful to you all if you like, comment, share & subscribe to my new channel so that maximum people can connect to my words. Help spreading the positivity and spreading smiles.

With this new channel, I hope to spread smiles here & smiles there & smiles everywhere 😀

P.S.: Today’s song pick is also on ‘A’. It’s As long as you love me of Backstreet boys. And, I follow many people in WP but there are some special souls out there and three of them are AllisonAadhira & Aditi. Their names also start with ‘A’. So you know what all is coming in the future A to Z challenge posts. But do you really know what’s coming? 😉 Have a great day & see you in YouTube ❤

 

One of the many beautiful moments in life

Our mind is like a history book. It keeps tracks of the good, the bad, and the ugly memories of our life. It’s said that when we are on the verge of being free from this world or have a near death experience(NDE), we see flashes of good times of ours in front of us.

How true is the above, I do not know because I haven’t had any NDE but I’d like to believe that it’s true. And for that, if I put myself in that situation I can say I will have some series of good memories flashing in front of me.

My beautiful memories would include falling from my bicycle in 1st standard(I was 6-7years old). It was a hot day and I was back from school. That day I was gifted a cycle by my parents. I was on cloud nine. My happiness knew no bounds. I didn’t even care to change my school dress after returning home. I saw the cycle with the key unlocked when I got down from my father’s bike. He said to me, “Son, this is your gift for getting good marks and also because you are of age to learn to ride a bicycle. Your sister has one & now it’s time for you to learn it too. Don’t try stunts & don’t ride alone. And one more thing, don’t compare yourself with your friends and all the things they have & you don’t because you don’t mention the things which you have & they don’t. And now, please smile, give me a hug, and go inside home and have some food.”

My father left for work and behind him, I also took my new red colored Neon cycle and sat on it with my left leg on the paddle & my right leg on the ground. My mother came shouting my name because I didn’t even keep my bag in the home. She knew it was going to be more trouble with this new cycle. She knew I was naughty and my naughtiness is going to increase with my new partner in crime being gifted to me. I called out to my sister but she didn’t respond. Maybe she was sleeping as she was sick and didn’t go to the school that day. I was getting impatient to ride my new cycle. I owned a tricycle and had ridden it numerous times in our lane and also on the street. But this new cycle was bigger than that. I was a dwarf then and hence it was difficult for me to reach the ground after applying brakes and prevent any mishap. I decided that I won’t ride sitting on the seat because my legs won’t reach the ground. I was not afraid of any injuries(I will get some days off from school & tuitions) but I was scared that my parents will take away my new cycle because I can’t ride properly & so I thought of riding it slowly & cautiously.

My mother asked me to come home & have some food but I was stern and lifted my right leg from the ground onto the paddle and off it went. I was finally riding my new cycle. The bell was also sounding melodious to me with its TIN-TIN sound. I was happy and frightened at the same moment. My mother had the same frightened expression on her face. She was surprised that I was able to ride it. I was smiling. I paddled it and it went smoothly. I had a dream of riding my cycle without holding its handle but I thought of performing that majestic stunt when my mother was not watching or else my father would definitely snatch away my precious gift. I kept paddling & I looked back to make sure that my mother was looking at me riding the cycle. I gave her a grin and waved my right hand in full swing. Her expression changed from frightening to fear and THUD!!

I groaned & shouted, “Moommmmmmm!!” and there she was, holding my head on her lap. I was crying because I had injured my knees(due to my school half pant). I accidentally rode over the bricks at the roadside and fell off. This is what happens when we are over excited. My mother caressed me and wiped my tears and kissed my forehead. She asked me to stop crying and also said that she was happy that I could ride my new cycle in the first attempt and she also promised that she won’t tell father anything about this incident. I didn’t believe her & she double promised me that she won’t. I took my cycle & thankfully there were no major scratches on it. We three walked to our home. I changed my clothes and freshened up and ate some food. My mother applied ointment on my injury too.

She made me promise that I won’t be this irresponsible again while riding my new bicycle and I gladly agreed. I loved the love I received from my mother. It was special and beautiful for me. My sister woke up from her nap and started laughing on seeing my injury but I had a feeling of pride on my face because of my valiant first attempt at cycle riding.

Now, I have seen my mother & father make so many sacrifices for our family but they have never let their children feel any different from the rest. They have done their best to impart good behavior and sane thinking in us. If we(my siblings & I) turn out to be bad/evil then it’s definitely our own fault 😀

There are many more beautiful memories but this will one of the top-rated stories for me and I will always remember the love in my mother’s eyes while wiping my tears. She had tears in her eyes. She was crying because I was crying. She was trying to stop me from crying while crying herself. This is why I love her the most and this is why this memory is my best beautiful memory. So, if ever I am in an NDE state, I will remember this good memory. It made me smile now too.

 

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P.S.: Today’s pick is Shape of my heart by Backstreet boys(this is my favorite band) ❤ Today is the 3rd anniversary of Smiles here & smiles there 🙂 And this site exists because of my cousin Chinks. It’s her birthday today and she has always been a constant inspiration to me since my kiddo days ❤

Waiting for the beep

Tring.. Tring! TRING!!
No one receives my call
Whenever I need them
And I never fail to
Receive their call
Do they think I am ignorant?
Do they think I am a fool?
Do they think
They will ask for my help
And I will help them
And then they will vanish
Until they need help again
And I will get a call from them
That’s fine
I receive calls
I listen to ramblings
I listen till
The water is above sea level
But why?
Why do I put up with them?
They may not feel guilty
When they don’t help me
But I feel bad when I
Don’t help them
Whenever I can
I know this is wrong
And I shouldn’t feel this
But this is me
And I don’t want to feel anything different
And I am happy
With helping others
And making myself feel good
What others feel
Is none of my business
So when I call them
I expect no answer
And instead wait for the beep
And leave it blank

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P.S.: Let’s welcome the Valentines’ weekend with a song of love. Today’s pick Angel of the morning by Juice Newton ❤

Perfect combo

Moustache: A person is a dude if he has a moustache. I am the sign of his manliness.

Beard: Don’t over think, Mr Moustache. A normal person can have a moustache and still won’t be a dude. For being a dude, he needs to have a beard. Trimmed, well-maintained beard. I magnify the aura of the dude multiple times & I can survive without you too.

Moustache: I agree with you surviving without me but if a person, who wants to be a dude and wants to grow a beard, has to have a moustache first. I am mandatory. I am the foundation and the base. You matter because I matter.

Beard: Now I don’t agree with you there. Seriously? You think that. You, of all people. That’s the lousiest thing I have heard from you and remember, we have been partners since the beginning of time. We used to get much time with each other in the beginning during stone age and when then the evolution started.

Moustache *being emotional*: Yes, I agree. Those were the golden days. We used to be important and mattered to the people. Nowadays we’re just there for style. There is no stability too. One day I am there and girls are wanting to smell me & dwell with me and the next day I am gone. Silly people.

Beard *joining the party*: I have to agree with you. These people are just so unstable. Sometimes they shave me all, sometimes they trim me, sometimes make me a goatee or a french cut. They play with me as if I am a toy. Such a nuisance cannot be tolerated anymore.

Moustache: I feel you, man. Let’s make sure that we won’t tolerate such torture from these people and grow uneven and crazily no matter how much they try to make it even or pay bucks to hair specialist to keep us within boundaries. We are the ones who are awesome and it’s us who help guys look awesome.

 

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Some of the many styles

 

P.S.: Today’s pick is I want it that way of Backstreet boys(my favorite band) in acoustic version sung by Boyce Avenue ❤

For the sake of writing about LIFE..

I want to write something that is remembered by those who read it. Something that if not read, implies missing out on something great and leads to regrets. Something which is total wonder and admired by most, if not all. Something that not only defines the writer but also the reader. It should fit into the lives of so many people. And for that to be true, it should be the most simple truth. The naked truth. This truth might not be accepted by all because it is difficult to digest truth, which makes us upset and feel regret. But upon reading it, many will realize that not accepting the truth is a matter of time and sooner or later we have to.

The simple things are becoming the most difficult ones in life. Why? Because we’re trying to make it more simpler. This doesn’t make any sense as God made us and he chose the most simple way for us. Be friends, be truthful, live life & love life. Such simple words yet difficult to stand firm on them.

Life can’t be any simpler so wasting our time on worrying about how life can be simpler and joyous is not getting us anywhere. Whatever time we have, apart from the work and all stuff, try to do something better. Even if doing better means better for your own self.

Being simple means being selfish. We’re born selfish. Can you accept this simple fact that you’re selfish? Yes, I am selfish because of the things I do for MY happiness. I read, I help, I cry all for my own happiness. Such a simple thing and yet we say others are selfish.

There is life only at that moment. Life vanishes just before and just after that moment. So why to bother much about thinking about the passed time and the uncertain, future. Chill, relax and enjoy the present, no matter the amount of shit you’re in.

We know we can get out of any arduous situation with some will power and concentration. Try that. Do it and see your comfort zone widen. Life is about adaption. We were born and we adapted to childhood. We grew and adapted to teenage. We are adapting to youth and at the blink of an eye, old age will be upon us and the adaption phase will start then too.

We gotta keep on adapting and accepting the facts of life. Difficult but the only way to live happily because crying over the past and worrying for the future will only make you miss the awesome present we’re presented with. Go! Live the present. Smile more. Talk more. Help more. Forget more. Forgive more. Love more. Live more.

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P.S.: Let’s welcome the weekend with some love and  My Love of Westlife 🙂

Continued legacy..

Don’t feel shy
Speak your heart out
Because speaking is always
Healthy but your words
Should be good and constructive
We are given a CHANCE
To live here
To make life better
Of our own and also
Of others
Being selfish won’t take
You anywhere and you’ll
Be all alone always
But with others by your side
You’ll feel their strength
Their prayers for you
Their love for you
Their smiles for you
You love these kind of people, right?
I adore them
It’s like a legacy of help
Which they received
During their trying times
And now they not fearing
To offer the same help
And continue the legacy
Salute to these kind souls
And help them make things better
If you can’t find anyone
Like this
Then be one yourself
Start and people will
Follow
As you’ve that leader within you

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Legacy passed

P.S.: I see fire of Ed Sheeran and I know loads of such people and I am grateful to each and every one of them for teaching me this great thing by setting examples and not just by words 🙂 Love you all ❤ I used the image of WWE wrestlers because many of my friends are big fans of WWE and I don’t understand that when will they grow up 😛 and while I was writing the previous sentence, one of my friend told a WWE #LameJoke 😦 Happy week all 😉

Bittersweet

“The truth may be stretched thin, but it never breaks, and it always surfaces above lies, as oil floats on water.”

— Miguel de Cervantes Saavedra

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Do you prefer a bitter truth or an easy/innocent lie? Truth’s harder for sure 😉

P.S. : Today’s pick is Hard to Love of Lee Brice. Awesome song & super awesome lyrics. I am also Hard to Love 😛