Parents being parents

When we’re kids and our parents go away to tend to their work, we cry for their undivided attention, and they feel happy that we crave for them

And when we go far from them in our youth, they happily wave us goodbye and then cry when alone

Parents being parents
And, kids being kids

Happiness one time
And, sadness the other

How times change?
We never know
They never show
That is how it is
Life goes on…

P.S.: Lately, I feel that I have not been my best self. But, I am reading good books and loving everything about life. Which book are you reading? I am reading Blink by Malcolm Gladwell. You can download the PDF. I love it. No new songs. This is a chance to share new songs too 😀

 

How difficult is it to think positive?

So! Yes, this time it’s not ‘Yo!’ 😀

I think I have met many people in my life. All kind of people, almost all. What hurts me to express is I am bad at expressing and then how people think negative things and stay with all the negativity.

I have been thinking for some days that how difficult is it to think positive, to think good things, and to understand that almost everything is in our mind. So, if we start to think happy, we certainly become happy, eventually.

I know I am writing this post from my perspective and hence I think it is easy to be happy and positive, but, I think I am ready to learn the difficult things of life and try to understand life from other’s perspective.

I think how we are brought up as a child has a larger effect on our thought process than anything else. But, how we see the world and feel the world and try to understand things is also important. It’s not that the same solution applies to all the problems and scenario and hence we gotta think differently for almost all the cases and try to find the best solution for each scenario individually.

As all people have a different name, and to call them, we use their respective names, similarly, to find a better relationship with any particular individual, we gotta use an unique solution to make it work in the best manner.

I can write numerous things about what to do to think positive but I won’t do it because if that worked, then I wouldn’t have been writing this post here. Things don’t work. People don’t think positive and hence there has to be something underneath this. Not only THEIR MENTAL LIMITATION but something more other than that. I want to figure that out so that we can try to neutralize that factor.

So, please tell me when you face difficulty to think positive. Under what circumstances do you think that you’re all drained of the positivity in your life and start to think negative? I know it’s difficult to express ourselves but we’re at that point in our life that we have to help ourselves or else it’s all downhill from there. Please help me, help you.

 

Work-Life balance in Software jobs

Yo!

I am into software and I love to explore what my future would be if I stay in the same career for forever 😀 It’s similar to the question which we all are asked in interviews like, “Where do you see yourself in 5 years?” 😉

FYI, sometimes, not always, I go to the restroom in office and read epub 😛 If any of my colleagues are reading this, trust me, my stomach is always upset with me for not eating more food 😛

So, this week, while I was in the restroom, reading a post,  I could hear 2 other colleagues talking. They are senior(read married)  😉

Senior1: Hey man, how are you?

Senior2: I am good. You?

Senior1: I am good too. How is everyone at home?

Senior2: Everyone is good. I think my son has forgotten me!

Senior1: Why? What happened?

Senior2: Because when he wakes up, I am getting ready for office. By the time, I leave for the office, he’s taking bath. I come to the office, he goes to school. When I return from the office, he’s already asleep.

So, now you know, what it is to be married and work in a software company. Good luck to me 😛 Don’t worry, I ain’t getting married anytime sooner 😉

P.S.: Yo! How are you, folks? I know, I have been writing more blogs than making more vlogs? Is something wrong with me? Of course not! It’s just that, I want to rejoice writing more than videos. But, the videos are coming 😉 Maybe 2018 will be full of videos 😛 If not done yet, then check out my YouTube channel, Darshith Badiyani. Today’s song is Ain’t no love in the heart of the city by Bobby Bland.

Yo! You! Happy Children’s day ;)

Trust me on this that I didn’t think of writing this post 😀

But, seeing people share their childhood pics and sharing posts which bring out the child in us, made me want to write this. After all, I am also a child inside 😉

So, tell me, you think you’re crazier than me? You’re more childish than me? You’re more fun than me? You’re cute than me?

I bet I am best on all the above except cuteness because my mother(I call her Mother India) used to drink chocolate Horlicks when she was pregnant with me. It’s no fault of mine 😉 But such is life. We get rewarded/punished for things we weren’t a part of and then sometimes, we escape from things which were to be blamed on us 😛

I wish I had kids so that I can post cute, crazy pics of them here 😉 Anyone volunteering for making my this dream true?  😉 Hey! Listen, if you’re my relative or who thinks I am a good guy, this is a joke. If you’re really into me, this ain’t a joke, I am serious! 😀

Nevertheless, I love being a kid and I instantly like those who behave like one(and obviously are a kid inside) 😀 I won’t say I have had a harsh life, I have seen the worst of things in life, I haven’t. But yeah, I have had my days, tough days, and here I am all risen, all shining. We all have to fall, and then rise, because that’s how life is. That’s how we grow up. That’s how we mature. That’s how we start to realize the small things of life like eating a lollipop or Poppins 😉

Lollipop 😛

 

Poppins love 😉

Different cities, different countries, same level of craziness

One of the signature pose since last 8 years 😀

 

So, I will also share some of my funny pics and you’re free to judge me and also my friends 😉 Happy Children’s day to one and all.

P.S.: Keep holding on to the child in you 😛 Hence today’s song Hold on by Michael Buble 😉 How are you? How is November going? I think I am back to writing blogs again and my videos have dried up, but I will be back 😀 Just hold on to me coming back for you 😉 If you don’t know, check out my YouTube channel Darshith Badiyani. Also, check out my Facebook page, Smiles here & Smiles there.

The generation gap

Yo!

Is it not a pleasant surprise that y’all are getting notification that DARSHITH PUBLISHED A NEW BLOG on Smiles here & smiles there 😀

I am back again 😛 This time around I will be discussing the Generation Gap we all face 😉

I am a 90’s kid and it was a great time to grow up seeing Sachin Tendulkar’s God-style play. Seeing Zidane/Messi/Ronaldo/Cristiano Ronaldo play ❤ Also more and more rising footballers too 😀 I also watched Shaktiman and loved the Maggi breakfast when I was a kid 😉

Last month I went to Gujarat along with my parents and sisters and it was a great time there. We have relatives there and as it was a family trip, it was filled with visits to temples and spending quality time with relatives and one another.

The thing which strikes me the most is how within 20-30 years, the way of thinking has changed among us.

Just a little background about my parents, they love God more than they love each other and they are great devotees. Every day. they will get ready in the morning and before going to work, they will pray God and worship him. And during special occasions like Diwali, Holi, family member’s bdays, they insist on going to the temple for blessings. Don’t take me wrong, I kind of don’t believe this logic. But, as they believe in this, I try to follow whenever I can, for them.

What struck me surprising is when my father bought 5 liters of milk to give as an offering to God and the temple people said that they will offer the next day and I am very much sure that they will sell the same 5 liters of milk to several people and keep the earned money with them. I am not saying it’s wrong. It’s just not good and on top of that, how foolishly people believe them saying it’s for God.

I understand that my parents had the right amount of devotion for their God but I don’t see why they had to do something out of the extraordinary like offering milk without any guarantees. And if they want, they could have given it to some needy people and get the blessings from real people instead. It’s their choice and I tried to state my POV and of course, was asked to not interfere 😛

And hence the train of thoughts ran wild. I thought of how so much money was looted by all these temples and the Babas. Why? Because they were playing with the innocence of the people and then these people, liked to be played on 😀

I saw such behavior from others and my parents throughout the trip of 5-6 days, which comprised of visiting around 8-10 temples. And then, it struck me. The answer.

And the answer is this blog’s title, The generation gap, and I will explain how.

Previously, like 20-30 years back, people used to invest in buying houses and cars and fancy, expensive stuff. It’s good. People still do that. But, our generation believes in experiences, in feeling new things, visiting new places because we try to live in the present. We don’t know where we will be after 1 year, say 5 years, so it doesn’t quite make sense to buy a house.

And then I got the answer. I would give away anything for travel, for good art, for good companionship, for a great experience, a new one. This is me and I hope, this is mostly 60-70% of 90’s onwards kids. How I worship art and creativity is the same way in which my parents and many more people worship God. It’s that simple, but, simple things are hard to get.

My Facebook post was “Is the art greater than the artist?”

The best response I got is by Saurabha Wankhede, “Let me give you an example.
Once Swami Vivekananda went to the darbar of Maharaja Mangal Singh who was a popular king at Alwar, Rajasthan.
The king always criticised image worship.
Swamiji had the portrait of the king brought down and asked the courtiers to spit on it.
When they refused to do so,
Swamiji pointed out to the king that there is no flesh or bone of the king in the picture, it nevertheless represents him.
Likewise, people worship stone or idol images remembering God alone.
The idol is considered God,
and it becomes the same,
Because no one can perceive God directly like a formless thing.
So though we create idols but it still has a greater value.
Obviously, it has.
You send your prayers or energies through the idol towards God.
It becomes a symbol of being holy and a place of worship.
When you attach yourself to God you become greater in all aspects as you join the supreme infinite power.
Also, one devotee can inspire and make many other worships God.
Similarly, when an artist creates art, he/she becomes greater and so is the art adored more by other people through the efforts of that person.”

I am sorry to make you confused regarding your thoughts on all this. But, what you can do is share your POV and then we can discuss along. What do you think about the Generation gap?

P.S.: Yo! Happy weekend! Do listen to Malibu by Miley Cyrus ❤ I am planning to make more videos. So, stay tuned and do subscribe to my YouTube channel @ Darshith Badiyani.

 

 

Let there be everything

Yo!

In this beautiful month of September

Let there be work

Let there be play

Let there be smiles

Let there be satisfaction

Let there be humor

Let there be gifts

Let there be music

Let there be books

Let there be laughter

Let there be hugs

Let there be travel

Let there be festive

Let there be silence

Let there be ignorance

Let there be judgment

Let there be anger

Let there be sleep

Let there be rest

Let there be excitement

Let there be life

Let there be you

Let there be me

Let there be us ❤

P.S.: This is for each individual out there who lives in routine facing some of all these things. Let there be love. I am becoming a fan of this song of Bruno Mars named That’s what I like.  Feel free to check out my motivational/travel videos @ Darshith Badiyani.

 

Mistakes and how to analyze them

We all do mistakes and some of us do blunders, including me. But, wise people are those who learn from their mistakes and come out victorious by not doing the same mistake purposely.

“You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on it. You don’t let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.” – Johnny Cash

Wanna know what kind of mistakes I have done?

• Not listen to my parents in some of the situations, which led to my loss/harm somehow.
• Not trying to save money even after working for around 3+ years. I should start using a piggy bank.
• Buying so many books a regular basis(No! This ain’t a mistake), but not able to read all those books is. I cry at the sight of those beautiful creatures sitting there in the cupboard and all I can do is bat my eye.
• I am a selfish guy. See! There it is out in this universe and I feel relieved. I have been telling this to most of my friends and frankly speaking, I am getting various reactions. Why am I doing this? Because we all are selfish and I want everyone to accept it. Just try to think and assess.

I can keep on going but all I want to let you know that we’re full of mistakes and we gotta accept the fact that we have to keep on evolving to have a good life so that we learn more from our failures and mistakes than our successes.

If my cell phone falls from my hand, it’s because I was careless or because of something other or someone else. If the same is done by someone else, I start thinking that they did knowingly.

So, to tell in short is, my mistakes are granular in size and other’s mistakes are humongous or blunders.

Ideally speaking, this should not be acceptable, but, as humans, we tend to do it. We tend to be impartial and follow favoritism. Now, don’t tell that you’re not your own favorite. I love myself.

So, before getting angry and trying to judge others based on their mistakes, think by being in their shoes and by being rational.

Good luck and do check out my video on the same topic.

P.S.: How are you, people? This is Rains of Castermere from GOT. Just 1 more month for GOT new season ❤ I love B’lore and my life. What about you? Do you love the place where you stay? Do you love how you spend 24 hrs of each day? Please do share your thoughts 🙂